“rise beyond your circumstances

“How does a person become productive? Find your strength and then find someone who needs your strength.”

“Several years ago Dr. Maxwell Maltz’s book, Psycho-Cybernetics, was one of the most popular books on the market. Dr. Maltz was a plastic surgeon who often took disfigured faces and made them more attractive. He observed that in every case, the patient’s self-image rose with his and her physical improvement. In addition to being a successful surgeon, Dr. Maltz was a great psychologist who understood human nature. A wealthy woman was greatly concerned about her son, and she came to Dr. Maltz for advice. She had hoped that the son would assume the family business following her husband’s death, but when the son came of age, he refused to assume that responsibility and chose to enter an entirely different field. She thought Dr. Maltz could help convince the boy that he was making a grave error. The doctor agreed to see him, and he probed into the reasons for the young man’s decision. The son explained, “I would have loved to take over the family business, but you don’t understand the relationship I had with my father. He was a driven man who came up the hard way. His objective was to teach me self-reliance, but he made a drastic mistake. He tried to teach me that principle in a negative way. He thought the best way to teach me self-reliance was to never encourage or praise me. He wanted me to be tough and independent. Every day we played catch in the yard. The object was for me to catch the ball ten straight times. I would catch that ball eight or nine times, but always on that tenth throw he would do everything possible to make me miss it. He would throw it on the ground or over my head but always so I had no chance of catching it.” The young man paused for a moment and then said, “He never let me catch the tenth ball—never! And I guess that’s why I have to get away from his business; I want to catch that tenth ball!”

“Las personas no quieren ser manejadas. Quieren ser dirigidas. ¿Alguien ha oído de un administrador mundial? De un líder mundial, sí. De un líder educativo, sí. De un líder político, religioso, explorador, comunitario, laboral, empresarial. Sí, ellos dirigen, no administran. La zanahoria siempre logra más que el látigo. Pregúntele a su caballo. Usted puede dirigir su caballo hacia donde hay agua, pero no puede obligarlo a beberla. Si usted quiere manejar a alguien, manéjese a usted mismo. Haga eso bien y estará listo para dejar de manejar y comenzar a dirigir.”

“As a leader, you should not be trying to carry everything yourself. To be successful, you must share the load. But you must have highly capable people to hand things off to.”

“Silent gratitude isn’t much good to anyone.”

“at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, 11and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

“A person with a negative self-image will expect the worst, damage relationships, and find others who are similarly negative.”

“Warren Bennis and Bert Nanus say that “trust is the emotional glue that binds followers and leaders together.”

“«Cuando uno hace que las personas se sientan seguras, importantes y apreciadas, no necesitan menospreciar a los demás para aparentar que ellas son mejores».”

“Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than your thoughts.”

“what gets rewarded gets done. If you praise and honor the people who epitomize the values of the team, those values get embraced and upheld by other members of the team. There is no better reinforcement.”

“What we do on some great occasion will depend on what we are; and what we are will be the result of previous years of self-discipline.”

“You have to link what you want to say to what others’ needs are.”

“Imagen es lo que la gente piensa que somos. Integridad es lo que en realidad somos.”